At the time when I first met David Quigley, fighting, abuse,
and pain wracked my home and family. I was on the verge of
getting a separation from my husband, and at the same time I
felt that I was destroying my family, my home and everything
that we had both worked so hard to accomplish for so many
years. It was very painful to say the least, but it was
becoming my reality. Worse yet is facing the fact that your
partner is not the only monster in the house, but that you
too have a share in the blame.
This was the time when I began to realize that we needed
professional help, as many couples do. My husband and I
decided to get that help. Two different doctors diagnosed my
husband with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the result of a
very sad accident that he had when he was only 13 years old.
I had suspected all along that this incident was the core
cause of his many “bad mornings”, his verbally abusive
behavior and his explosive outbursts of anger and rage.
Now my question was, what lies at the core of all of my
frustrations and craziness? Was it the fact that I had been
molested as a child? Was I only reacting in response to my
husband’s behavior? Or was it something else that I had no
clue about? In any case, living around me wasn’t easy either,
we were tearing each other apart, becoming more and more
distant from one another, and making our children’s lives
Conventional marital therapy seemed to be doing us more harm
than good – each session seemed only to dredge up more and
more ugly incidents from the past, the memories stinging like
fresh wounds, and yet this therapy offered no resolution, no
method of healing. In fact, after one of these therapy
sessions, I decided to leave my husband for good.
But what about our children? Didn’t they count? Was I to make
them choose between parents? Hadn’t our arguing caused them
enough pain already? At this point my husband was ready to do
anything to fix our marriage, and even though I felt very
hurt and unhappy with my own situation, I knew I had to go
along with his idea of fixing our problems.
Obviously, doctors, medications and conventional therapy had
not helped us, so my husband started to look elsewhere for
answers. After long hours of searching the internet, he
learned of Mr. Quigley’s innovative hypnotherapeutic
techniques, I immediately knew that we must try to seek his
help. We both felt very fortunate to learn that one of his
Empowerment Intensive therapy sessions was scheduled to take
place in our area on the following weekend.
My daughter’s birthday was coming up, and with many tears in
my eyes I said to her: “Sweetheart, the best present that I
can give you for your 16th birthday is to give you a new
life, a new start and a happy home”.
On the following Friday morning we met David for the first
time. We had never been through any similar therapeutic
sessions before, and did not know what to expect. All we knew
it was that we were ready for anything; as we had committed
ourselves to give our full energy and attention to whatever
the weekend had in store. We all got together at 9 o’clock,
there were nine persons in our group, including David.
For a moment I was expecting a time of lecture and judgment,
a time when we would be torn to pieces for not being good to
each other, a fire and brimstone sermon. Instead we started
with a beautiful chanting, holding hands and singing
together. What followed I would have never expected, it was a
most amazing weekend – three days of intensely powerful work
with strangers that had suddenly become trusted friends, with
the whole of the group being actively involved in the drama
that unfolded as each participant in turn faced the issues
that he or she needed to address, the result being that each
member’s work had a profound impact on all members of the
At last I could see why I was so angry and vicious I had
become ever since my childhood, I previously had no idea that
the memory of one event had caused me so much pain, so much
hate, resentment and anger throughout my life, a memory in
which I was not the victim, but the witness and the observer.
It related to my two older brothers being viciously beaten
with a rope by my grandaunt. I watched and cried in
hopelessness, seeing my brothers getting hurt by this woman.
Then with the group’s help, we stepped in and rescued both of
my brothers in an act of courage, joy, and resolution.
During this weekend with David I began to realize that I had
been throwing all of this misplaced anger into my
relationship with my husband, never understanding what the
true roots of my pain, fear and frustration were.
I soon learned why David call his process “Alchemical
Hypnotherapy”: Like many techniques found in conventional
therapeutic methods, it helps to root out and uncover hidden
core issues that may have been negatively influencing us for
years, but unlike conventional methods, which are successful
in exposing old traumas, but do little or nothing to heal the
pain, David’s “Alchemical Hypnotherapy” has the magical
effect of turning psychological lead into gold, by helping
participants to create positive “memories”: mental images
that serve to cancel out the traumas that were the source of
so much unhappiness and pain.
Once we discovered and dealt with many of our core issues in
that workshop, my husband and I were able finally to move on,
and have since enjoyed a love and closeness greater than we
had ever experienced in our eighteen years of marriage. For
that we both thank David Quigley, for giving us our lives
back. I can’t even begin to tell you of the magnificence of
“Alchemical Hypnotherapy”, and all of the benefits we have
enjoyed; I can only tell you that I am most grateful and
impressed by this program, and that I personally recommend it
I would like to share a story told by one of the participants
in David’s Empowerment Weekend:
A man was babysitting an energetic five-year-old boy, and was
hoping to find a distraction that would keep him occupied for
a while. The man soon found a map of the world printed on a
magazine page. The man tore the page out, and proceeded to
cut it into small pieces – a sort of homemade jigsaw puzzle.
He then placed the pieces in a bowl, and gave them to the
boy, along with a roll of transparent tape. “See if you can
put this map back together”, he told the boy.
Much to his amazement, the boy returned only a few minutes
later with the world map completely reassembled, every piece
in its proper place.
“How did you do that so quickly?” the man asked.
“Easy,” said the boy, “there was a picture of a man’s face on
the other side of the page. I just put the man together, and
the world came together all by itself”.
What a wise and profound response: “Fix the man to fix the
Ladies and Gentleman this is our challenge: The problems that
face the world at large are merely magnified reflections of
the problems that each of us face as individuals in our
interpersonal relationships. A pyramid cannot be built from
the top down, so to solve the world’s problems, we must first
address the fundamental problems inherent in each and every
Fix the man, and a world of love, compassion, peace and
understanding will evolve of its own accord. I hope you will
take this message to the entire world, how important it is to
be at peace with us to be at peace with everyone else.
Love and light to all of you, and thank you for your time.
Best regards, Gloria Chivers
The Alchemy Institute, America’s oldest spiritually oriented hypnotherapy training program has trained over 2000 hypnotherapists since 1983. The Alchemy Institute is approved by the state of California BPPVE (Bureau of Private Postsecondary Education) and the ACHE (American Council of Hypnotists Examiners). Empowerment weekends scheduled regularly. http://alchemyinstitute.com/empower.htm