When it comes to anger, we all have one thing in common – when we become angry we all feel justified in our response. However for many of us, even after we realize we’re overacting or to blame, we still aren’t able to control our anger. When something sets us off, by the time we’ve realized what’s happening, we’ve got caught up in the angry and all too often aggressive state of body and mind and simply don’t know how to stop.
Anger is best defined as an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation, to intense fury and rage. It is a perfectly natural and potentially productive human emotion; a response to a threat that inspires powerful, often aggressive feelings reactions, which allow us to fight back and defend ourselves. As such, in the days of prehistoric man, experiencing anger was critical to our survival.
However in more modern times, we usually feel anger when we are being hurt; our boundaries are being violated; our needs are being ignored; or, during numerable other scenarios where our expectations are not being met. In these situations we express anger as a means to regain control of the situation and in that regard; it is a perfectly natural state.
Most people experience a healthy dose of anger many times during their lives. However anger becomes a problem when it is experienced too frequently, too intensely, or for long periods of time.
And when we experience anger that’s too frequent, too intense or too long lasting, there are harmful effects on our health – because anger involves the activation of many physical arousal systems, anger causes a very real strain on your body. Recent scientific studies have found that recurrent anger contributes to a number of serious illnesses, including heart disease and hypertension.
For those of us who realise we’re hurting and pushing away the people in our lives, damaging our family, social and work relationships, not to mention our health, there is a plethora of self-help material out there on the web.
But do they work? Well that’s something that you’re going to have decide for yourself. But here’s the point, the primary source of anger related issues is the sub or unconscious mind. Anger is not a conscious response – if you could consciously decide to stop getting angry, wouldn’t you simply decide to do so?
The reality is that this would be a little like asking your conscious mind to forget how to ride a bike. You couldn’t could you, even if you tried? And that’s the point, whilst all these self-help strategies may have some merit, they do not deal with the real source of the issue, they do not access the unconscious mind, the reservoir of feelings, thoughts, urges, and memories that sit outside of our conscious awareness and influence all of our behaviours and experiences.
Through hypnosis, we can access the unconscious mind and harness its extreme power to reprogram habitual patterns of behaviour, such as responding angrily to everyday situations.
Hypnosis bypasses the conscious mind and creates an alternative state of consciousness in which attention is focused away from the present reality. Rather like day dreaming, attention can then be focussed towards particular images, thoughts, perceptions, feelings, motivations and behaviours which will help change our habitual responses and learnt behaviours.
Our body already has natural mechanisms to handle stress and regulate emotions such as anger, but occasionally they need help in operating properly. Hypnosis helps you do just that – it enlists the help of your unconscious mind in making the necessary long term changes for you to be free of anger, allowing you to be altogether more relaxed and in control in all those situations in which you used to lose control.
As a practicing hypnotherapist, I have helped many clients to manage anger related issues, thereby transforming the quality of their lives. If you are suffering and want to manage your anger that is affecting your life, I strongly recommend you seek the services of a qualified hypnotherapist near you.
Steve Burns is the founder of The Therapy Lounge.
Prior to starting The Therapy Lounge, Steve enjoyed a successful career in business. His first major project was to help establish, grow and then sell an international technology consultancy. He subsequently started his own Internet publishing and technology business, which he floated on the London Stock Exchange in 2000 and went on to grow internationally.
His fascination for personal development led him to finally leave the corporate zone to pursue a full time career as a therapist / executive coach. After training as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Ericksonian Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner and Health & Success Coach, Steve created and opened The Therapy Lounge based in NW London, on the borders of Hampstead, Highgate & Kentish Town.